I decided to ask some of my friends and clients this question, and here are their responses. You may find that special nugget of brilliance that you haven’t been able to quite grasp before from their answers. Perhaps you’ll even capture and make a lasting change with something you’ve worked hard on!

Joy said, “I decided that I was ready to stop taking everything someone said to me so personally. Every time I heard myself say something silently to that effect I would say, “Whoa, slow down Joy. Wait a minute, I don’t have to think that way…and I would stop thinking it.” I had to say that a lot in the beginning, almost every minute, but now I just find myself noticing what I’ve said and instantly from the “whoa,” I’m able to reframe it to “this isn’t about them, it’s about me. I’m meeting my needs and feeling comfortable with what I’m saying…I’m good!” This is one change that’s staying. I was so tired and drained by how I used to think constantly. Now I just accept that everyone has their “stuff,” and I move on with my life!

Dorothy has made her up and down swing of 20 pounds in her weight to going back to maintaining her most comfortable weight for the last year now. How? She decided it was time to not spend so much time and energy throughout her whole life worrying about something. She was ready to free herself from suffering in this area. She decided on what had been her most comfortable weight in the past, made a plan to get there and has stayed there. She was ready for change in this area of her life. She had decided to value and love her body to the point where it has become automatic to treat it lovingly with how she eats, exercises, sleeps and speaks to it. Permanent change!

Stan was a complete black and white thinker when he came to me for therapy. This applied to his wife, children, career and himself. There was only right or wrong, win or lose, fact or fiction, good or bad. Of course this created resistance, defensiveness and anger on the part of all those personalities he dealt with on a daily basis. He became tired of the struggle and through his work on himself he saw that he felt this way because of how judgmental and critical he had always been with HIMSELF. He decided to ACCEPT himself, and in the process he started seeing that there were no absolutes in life. People were human, and once he stopped judging himself so harshly he stopped judging himself. One day in therapy Stan’s son said to him in a family session, “I don’t like your house rules, I don’t like you.” He was amazed when his father lovingly smiled and said that he was sorry he felt that way, but his son was entitled to his opinion. His son was blown away since his “old” father would have gotten up and yelled at him. True acceptance..no matter what..it’s a beautiful thing to watch!

What change have you managed to sustain? How did you do it? Won’t you share? You could spark something for someone that could be life-changing FOREVER!!

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Meandering slowly down this road and watching very carefully to make sure you do not go the wrong way slows your passage. Having an extreme amount of caution, making sure all i’s are dotted and t’s are crossed can actually deter you from your bigger picture. Moving quickly past what you may have thought of previously as obstacles makes the journey go so much more smoothly. Over thinking or perfectionist behavior only slows you down. Trusting that all will occur as it needs to in life allows the right people to appear before you, the right doors to open, and the perfect blend of awareness to develop.

Let all unfold as you need to. It will bring you to the culmination of why you choose this particular lifetime in this place, at this time and particularly with those around you that will help bring all to fruition.

Trust. Trust in the journey!

Is your awareness heightened to see exactly what you need to?

I know that some of the people that signed up for my telecourse, “Guided by the Truth: Honoring the Light Within,” are feeling this right now. They are on Chapter Six of a 12-week series where they are reading one chapter a week and answering five questions at the end designed to move their soul forward and bring their life’s plan to vision.

We had the first of three live Q&A sessions last week to discuss their questions and thoughts on the first chapters. Writing and doing exercises on discovering their life plan, perceiving what “the light” is, scripting out the rest of their lifetime and understanding the threads that connect their body, mind and soul was up for discussion.

As it has been said many times before in many different ways, “Forgiveness does not mean forgetting.” You will always remember the person or situation that you had difficulty with, but it will no longer bother you. When you think back on the set of events that set all in a negative spiral you will actually have no negative or positive feelings about it any longer. You will have finally fall into the observer role, be able to detach emotionally, mentally and physically from its grip.

Peace will be yours………

It works by expressing an attitude or an aura of gratitude and this sends beams of vibrations straight to source. What results is an abundance of light that drops straight down through you to provide clarity for your journey ahead.

The challenge for this is found in the difficult times you face where despair and heartache seem more in your life than ever before. Trusting that all is as it needs to be and that even these tests, challenges or opportunities are presented in your life for a reason promotes a feeling of gratitude. There is an abundance of reasons you may be afforded this time for healing and growth. Trust me, I know that at the moment it can seem unbelievably hard and you think, “What on earth could be the lesson in this?”

I’ve had those times too. When I got divorced nearly 24-years ago now I thought, “How could this be happening?” I thought I would be married for life, and now this? Well, as I discovered, my soul planned for my greatest hardships to be placed in my path at an early age. Once I got these challenges to a different space, I was able to move on with my life and continue growing through my soul work. I trusted. My mother who was one of my biggest mentors in my life kept telling me “this is for a reason, trust, just trust.” I did. And I met the true love of my life, and it has been a fabulous 22 years so far. Life has flowed…

Yes, give thanks for any and all that you have, and the brightness of the light that surrounds you will flow!

Once your soul is allowed to fly, the possibilities are endless. New ideas emerge that weren’t even on the radar before. You can feel an excitement bubbling beneath the surface with thoughts of traveling, speaking, writing, connecting with people, speaking of spirit and so much more that feeds your energies! One idea tumbles into the next and the next.

How does this happen? You have released it from captivity. You removed any judgment or self-imposed barriers and are letting it soar with angel wings. You are gravitating to it like a magnet that is pulling you into its field of joy, endless possibilities, fun, laughter, and spreading spirit all the while!

This is called letting go of your ego state. Now your soul can speak to you clearly and allow you to manifest your destiny as you had intended for it when you were born. Ahhh, this was the plan for it, the blueprint, the script that you and your team developed before your soul came forth in this body. Remembering the bigger part that was when you had no ego state before you came into this lifetime. You were a pure soul that had only planned for soul evolvement for you through this lifetime. THEN you came into this body and into this life and what happened? EGO happened! It’s time to let it go once more to see all that is yours to take on this journey of spirit!

If this soul work interests you and if these words resonate with you, then I’d love to work with you! I have expanded internationally and am skyping around the world (and locally) to help you create the ultimate peace and healing for your soul. Each 60 minute consultation includes messages from spirit that I will access before the session to help you unlock the door to ultimate soul growth in this lifetime.

Is it time? Are you ready? Send an email to petey@newpathwaytohealing.com to arrange for your personal consultation.

My beautiful grand-daughter Brenna!

Watching the faces of young children is a joy. They are fully engaged in the moment without a care for the future or the past. These are life lessons presented right in front of us. For many, the reminder is on a daily basis. Most young children have not LEARNED to worry unless there is something dramatically unbalanced within their family. The majority of children ages 1- to 6-years old only experience and live in the joy of the moment. When they are coloring, they are fully present….lips pursed, intent on trying to get as close within the lines as possible. When they are playing with their cat or dog, they are fully present intent on the animal’s reactions as they pet or love on them.

It is only until they are taught that they should worry that it begins to creep into their persona. They may be verbally taught as in hearing others asking them such questions as: “Are you sure you want to do that? What’s going to happen if you do that? What do you think your teacher is going to say about that tomorrow? Wait till your father gets home later. Do you know how much that’s going to cost? What will your friends think about that?”

Or perhaps they’ve learned it unconsciously by simply watching others in the family behave. Do you know how many times they might hear you or their older sibling say things like: “Oh no, I screwed that up, now what? I didn’t do my homework, I’m going to fail. We don’t have enough money to pay the bills this week. I’m afraid I’m going to lose my job. How can I go into the office tomorrow, I’m not prepared for this meeting?”

Children get pulled out of the moment, and begin a cycle of worrying. How about if we just learn from them?

Embrace the moment, and feel in the present. There’s nothing to be gained by worrying about the future or by ruminating about the past. Be in the moment. Live, laugh, love and enjoy life!

Is it difficult for you to be in the present? Where did you learn it? What is one thing you will choose to do differently today to be fully present in the moment?

Abundance is a state of mind and nothing other than that that. When you’re in this state of mind, everything flows into your life smoothly. When you are grateful for all the simple pleasures of abundance that lie before you, around you and behind you, then this energy exudes from you. If you are not in the frame of mind to even see or notice the abundance in your life, here are three steps to bring it forward.

1. Look in the mirror. Find one attribute about yourself that is in abundance, and you are grateful for. Your teeth, smile, hair, clear skin, eye color, shape of your fingers – the list goes on and on. Choose one quality, and give thanks for this abundance physically. Fill in the blank, and repeat out loud, “I am grateful for this abundance of _____________.”

2. Take an emotional or mental inventory. What are you thankful for? Your sense of humor, intelligence, caring nature, loving heart, patience, musical ability…and again, the possibilities are endless. Choose one, and give thanks for this emotional or mental abundance. Repeat “I am so very grateful for this abundance of ____________.”

3. Now close your eyes, and feel your spiritual connection. Give thanks for what flows from this source. Is it your compassion for others, ability to unconditionally love or perhaps that you have the ability to feel the presence of spirit in your life and the peacefulness that comes from this source. Give thanks out loud for one of these spiritual gifts that you can now see and acknowledge. Repeat “I am blessed to have this abundance of _____________ in my life today.”

These are endless gifts of abundance that have been dropped into your life that usually receive no thanks. Acknowledge them. Bring them forward into your awareness. Now watch what else begins to flow into your life from this new awareness of simply giving thanks for them!

I’d love it if you would share what else you are now beginning to see flow into your life after doing this exercise for only a few days!

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The message of abundance is coming up once more for discussion! For some reason I am receiving this topic to speak on once again for this blog so here we go!

Is there a secret of abundance?

Abundance is usually described as more than one or a plentiful quantity of something. It comes in twos, threes and multiples. In society it is taught that the more we have of something, the more abundant we are said to be in life. Having a bunch of dollars is better than just one dollar. Having a second or third home could appear as massive abundance. This theory trickles down to the smallest of areas as well. Having several ideas is better than one. Joining with others in areas of endeavor is more successful and abundant than going at it on your own.

Yes, abundance is most often described in multiples and is described by words such as many, countless, numerous, lots of and several.

So what does this mean by having an abundance of spirit? To me, having an abundance of spirit is that which refers to having a trust, a faith in one presence and one power. Whatever the name is you give it…. God, Buddha, YHVH, Allah, etc… is not the point. There may be a variety of names to denote your higher power, but there is only one source and one presence to have faith in and guide you in spirit.

Perhaps this is the thought for the day. Maybe we don’t need multiples to have abundance in our lives. Possibly having one lovely home is abundance in itself. One brilliant, directed idea is 10 times more valuable than many scattered in multiple tracks. Perhaps even one dollar directed in the right area can be the path towards untold abundance rather than thousands just sitting somewhere in an account.

Having faith and trust in one source can be your go to place for your entire lifetime rather than feeling pulled in many other directions trying to find answers.

This becomes your choice. Maybe ONE is all the abundance one might need in a lifetime of many things…what do you think? Does abundance have to mean multiples to you?

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Peace can be accessed many different ways. There is a peacefulness that is always in our deepest recesses that calls out to be noticed. But too often, sadness, grief, confusion, and ego get in its path. You might wonder, “How can ego get in the path of peacefulness?”

Ego is the state where it must be noticed. Being noticed drives your ego to perhaps say and do things that truly do not ring authentically with your core. They are behaviors that are looking for acceptance, validation and accolades. These attributes are not coming from within you. They are looking for self-worth and acceptance from the outside.

In driving toward this destination of satisfying ego, it is difficult to be in a peaceful place. It becomes covered by consciously and unconsciously trying to please others instead of self. How would you come to know your peaceful space when your focus is on another? You cannot.

What to do with this quandary? Acknowledge it. See clearly what you are doing and what is driving your behavior. Choose differently. Repeat the following affirmations:

I choose to speak and behave authentically to my highest good.

I am at peace with who I am.

I serve spirit and in that I serve myself. We are one. I serve no other.

I am at peace with who I am.

Say these affirmations at least three times a day. Write them down someplace. Say them out loud. Once your conscious and unconscious mind has joined in the same purpose of achieving inner peace, you will be at peace.

Let me know…how do you feel just as your read these affirmations. Can you already feel the shift to peace beginning in your body, mind and soul?

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Connect to Mind – Body – Spirit with Petey Silveira