Thank you Mary for giving the gift of your story to give others the courage to do the same!

“A New Beginning” – Curtain Rising on the Second Act of My Second Act

In December 2006, life as I had known it came crashing down around me as I was given the life giving diagnosis of post polio syndrome, a progressive neurological disease. My body and Spirit were crying out for healing. The years of hating and using dissociation to keep the pain of paralytic polio and childhood trauma at bay finally caught up with me. In May 2007, I walked away from my award winning career as a social worker at the VA to heal my life. I discovered the gift of poetry in my soul which helped me to express not only the pain bound in my body but I was able to access feelings of love, light, joy, gratitude, healing, hope and possibility.

In April 2009, I ran the Boston Marathon as a mobility impaired runner, had two books of inspirational poetry published and thought that the finish line of the Boston Marathon was the end of my healing story. But, every finish line is a new starting line. In October 2010, a friend of mine suggested I join her for a yoga class. Me? Yoga? Come on take one look at me and you’ll see I don’t belong in a yoga class. But when I went to her house for a New Year’s Eve party, I made a New Year’s Resolution I’d try one yoga class. On January 15, 2011, I met Pat Donaher who, along with his teacher, David Vendetti would become my guides on the next phase of my journey as a new beginning slowly came into view on the horizon.

Pat and I began work in individual yoga lessons. He asked me if I was working on a particular postural issue with my bodyworker. I told him I didn’t have one. He told me I needed to see his teacher, David, a certified Kinesis Myofascial Integration therapist. In addition to KMI Bodywork, David invited me to a holotropic breathwork session with his yoga teacher trainees. After the session, he told me to go home and write a beautiful poem. Why did he say that, I asked myself. I had sent him an email before we began working together mentioning in passing I had written poetry. Something was tugging at my soul and I did write a poem, “A Song of Freedom”. Out of that one poem, my soul gave birth to my 3rd book of inspirational poetry, “Songs of Freedom:Poems from a Healing Odyssey,” available on Amazon Kindle.  As I am discovering on this amazing odyssey, there is always a new beginning after an ending, and poems for Volume II are beginning to flow.

During my bodywork sessions with David, he would talk about yoga teacher training. I was intrigued and loved the breathwork session last July. I began going to David’s yoga classes and ‘just happened’ to take the Sunday class which the teacher trainees attend. I became friends with other teacher trainees and realized the Universe was calling out to me. In August the curtain will rise on the second act of my second act as I begin yoga teacher training. We shall see where the road leads as my odyssey continues.

About the Author: Mary McManus is a retired social worker from the Department of Veterans Affairs. Since 2007, she has been on a healing odyssey which, in January of 2011 led her to the yoga mat. Her symptoms of post polio syndrome and post traumatic stress disorder diminish and feelings of strength, healing, confidence take center stage. For more information about the KMI Bodywork and Holotropic breathwork session Mary mentioned in her guest post, visit http://www.anatomytrains.com/kmi/experience and http://www.holotropic.com/about.shtml. Mary continues to write poetry about her healing odyssey and in August will begin yoga teacher training. Her vision is to use the treasures and wisdom from her healing odyssey to help others heal their lives through the practice of yoga. You can visit her website and follow her blog.

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Enjoy this wonderful post that will make you go hmmmm!!!

Beginnings by Bernie Siegel, MD

I have been a member of the Board of Directors of Heaven and my position is to serve as an outside advisor and consultant. Several years ago the first time I was asked to give a report I did a lot of research to impress God and at the conclusion of my presentation I said, “The end.”
God looked perplexed and responded, “Bernie when you give a report in Heaven you say, “The beginning” when you have finished your presentation.” I was a bit taken aback and God could see by my expression that what He said did not make sense to me.

“Bernie when Fall arrives the leaves stop trying to please the family tree, by being green leaves, and not causing a family tree problem by being different. They then reveal their true beauty and uniqueness and begin to live their true and authentic lives when they realize their time on earth is limited.

Think about this: you finish school and invite people to your graduation. What is your graduation called? Yes, a commencement and not a termination despite the fact that you are done with school but obviously the commencement relates to your true education just beginning.

And what does the Bible end in, a conclusion? No, a revelation. So remember life is a never ending beginning and every time there is a change, be it a gain or a loss, we have to start again and rebirth ourselves by abandoning our past by using our wounds to help us to grow and heal in a healthy way. Thus every change becomes a blessing and not a curse and leads us to nourish ourselves and our lives just as hunger does.

So don’t forget to finish your next report with; the beginning. Remember a perfect world is not creation it is a magic trick which has no beginnings. We are here to live and learn and to keep learning and until we truly graduate so in life we experience a never ending series of commencements. And the greatest commencement is when you leave your body and your consciousness continues on unburdened by a body and time. Until then remember, in love’s service only the wounded soldier can serve.”

About the Author:  Bernie’s realization that we all need help dealing with the difficulties of life, not just the physical ones, led to Bernie writing his fourth book in 1998 Prescriptions for Living. It helps people to become aware of the eternal truths and wisdom of the sages through Bernie’s stories and insights rather than wait a personal disaster. He wants to help people fix their lives before they are broken, and thus not have to become strong at the broken places. To learn more about Bernie click here.

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The Beginning of a New Era

2012 is the beginning of a new era and the shift is well underway! We’re only a month into it and I already find myself enjoying a quickening. Most clear to me is the dramatic and vital shift from “me” to “WE.” While it is absolutely true that each and every one of us must do our own personal work (it’s an energetic impossibility for anyone else to do it for us), I see a powerful pattern emerging – one that supports transformation. It is group participation.

Group participation – sharing the journey with others headed in the same direction – is the single most powerful accelerator I know to facilitate personal growth and change. Many of us feel the pressure or urgency to “grow faster” or “go deeper.” Often we seek shortcuts. The solution is clear and simple – connecting with others on the path facilitates our growth. This is not an entirely new concept. The opportunity before us is to associate with the group in a new way.

Let’s examine this process closely. The first step is to recognize the futility of spiritual isolation. We realize that “going it alone” assures growth, but at a more gradual pace and potentially less depth. The era of secluded transformation limited only to mat, couch or monastery is behind us. With this awareness, you may instinctively seek a group to move through challenges and beyond limitations. The reality is that sensitives like we, often linger at the edge of groups, hesitant to deal with the potentially negative impact of inappropriate mates.

If the only option is to stay wed to the old idea and form of “group,” then I agree, separation may be a better idea. Frankly, others can send and receive energy with the best of intentions – hoping to support and uplift each another – but end up with a result that is more often than not distressing and confusing. And it is also true that spiritual sensitives struggling solo, mining interior realms all the while deflecting and protecting from intrusion, know that there must be a better way. Else, why the human experience if we were meant for solo journeying?

When human beings similarly engage, the result is a brilliant path of Light!

The new era beginning with 2012 presents and calls forth a new type of group interaction and formation – a new beginning we can see clearly when looking at it through the lens of the Akasha. Here’s what it looks like to me. Within the new form of group, each individual accepts full responsibility for themselves, seeking neither to add to nor detract from others. Intent on walking together, in the company of an association of whole persons, each stands as a point of light unto themselves. At this level of association, each radiates their individual essence to the whole and then magnetically draws from the vibrational essence of the group. This is very important and quite different from past models. Think of a grove of trees standing in the forest, each individual tree existing solo yet all the while sharing the environs and elements of the Earth – in a cycle of extracting and emitting vital ingredients for the survival and growth of all. The result of this mutually beneficial energy exchange is a powerful biome. When human beings similarly engage, the result is a brilliant path of Light! 

People often ask me how they can deepen their connection with their soul. I tell them, they can do so by using the wisdom and support found in their Akashic Records, more enjoyably and in less time. Here’s my answer: Simply allow yourself to be a student, to learn in person from a teacher you admire and respect. A good teacher will facilitate your individual growth. Next, gather or join a group of “Akashic Associates.” There are many meet-up groups, book study circles, ongoing practitioner support groups. If nothing exists in your area, then take the lead and gather your friends! New ways require new leaders to model them for others. As you step into this new way of being, you will become an attractor for others. Together, the vitality of the group will light the way, enhancing your destiny with less stress and more fun.

Consider the possibilities of engaging in a new group and/or in a new way with your old group. Humbly recognize the limitations of an isolated spiritual walk. And then choose to step into association with others heading in the same direction. Last, but certainly not least, enjoy the ride!

About the Author: Linda Howe is the founder and director of the Center for Akashic Studies, and the leading expert in the field of Akashic Studies. She is the author of the award-winning breakthrough book, How to Read the Akashic Records (Sounds True, 2009), also available as a six-cd audio set. Linda is a gifted teacher with an international following of students from every walk of life: mystics, artists, writers, business professionals, psychiatrists and therapists, academics, and healers. Linda is committed to empowering her students to recognize the Light within, and to know their own soul more than ever before.

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A New Beginning with Shay St. John

Thank you for the invitation to be a guest on your blog. Where do I even begin?

First, I applaud your willingness to listen and let your own inner self guide the choices you make. I am with you, aligning my heart with yours as you stretch, glow and grow. I am so grateful our paths have crossed. I am choosing to share my journey across time with cancer. My guides tell me that you are the person who can amplify what I am writing and reach so many who are looking for “light” in the midst of a cancer diagnosis.

In 2005, I was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer and I knew God would guide me through this. I asked to have both breasts removed. Being 62 and amply endowed, I knew I could not do rebuilding of the left breast. Both were gone which resulted in an instant weight loss of over 9 pounds.

Now it is 6 years later. I have been clean and clear. And I felt great.

Usually in the fall and spring I get an allergy revival. I went to my doctor, took the medications but still did not feel better. He changed the meds and asked me to do an MRI. Out of the blue, I was diagnosed with lung cancer; still very small, but also critical. I prayed. I “fussed.” And I took my husband with me to talk with “our” doctor the next week.

I am a Unity minister (positive, practical, progressive Christianity with openness to the Oneness that connects us all). My husband of 25 years and I prayed, talked, cried, laughed and wondered what the heck I didn’t learn the first time around. Together, we went back to our doctor. I asked him to refer me to the surgeon he would go to if he had lung cancer. I also told him I did not want any other treatments. No chemo. No radiation. So I urged him to be sure the surgeon was “on board” with that treatment plan. There was a great peace filling every cell and fiber of my being. I knew I would be blessed with complete wholeness and I am so grateful that this is so.

My surgery was the 1st week of November, 2011. My surgeon urged me to take six weeks to rest and renew. I did that which was not an easy thing for me to do and I returned to full time work in the church on December 18th. Today, I feel great. My energy is up-tempo. I rejoice that I can let go and let God guide me as I celebrate my wholeness.

My surgeon’s name was Dr. Kitten. I am such a cat lover. When Dr. Barnard told me his name, I knew he was, indeed, the perfect one to do the surgery. He removed the cancer fully and completely. When he came to the hospital and told me he left wide healthy margins all around me, and I felt so much light enfolding me. On my first and last follow-up visit he said, “I don’t ever want to see you again.” We both laughed, knowing that my faith, his skills and my caring General Practitioner all interacted to make this miracle happen.

I share this with you because my guides insisted and because I know that you KNOW that you have made right decisions. You are this moment healed, blessed and enfolded in a clear light that guides you forward.And I look forward to getting to know you as we network our lights.
Namaste,
Shay

About the Author: Shay St. John has been a minister at Unity Church of North Houston since 2002. In November 1977, she completed her training as a Licensed Unity Teacher. Since, then Shay has been actively involved at Unity and you can find out more information here. Shay’s vision in ministry is to serve passionately, to love wastefully and to empower all who are willing to grow to be all that God intended them to be. From Johnnie Colemon, Shay has learned and demonstrated that IT WORKS IF YOU WORK IT.

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Before you step in and experience the writer, Karen Drucker, you must listen to one of my favorite songs she sings, “Gentle With Myself” here. A perfect song for Valentines Day, don’t you think?

Now sit back and enjoy this wonderful post on “A New Beginning“!

The Call Of Something More

“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” -Anis Nin

I remember the moment–actually the instant that it happened.

I was the main musician at a conference I had been doing for years. By this time I had the gig down–I knew exactly what to do, how to work the room, what song would bring the participants to tears, laughter, or open their hearts. Every song I sang was with the purpose that the presenters would walk into a cushion of fluffy inspiration set up by what I had just created for them. I loved this job. It was fun, stimulating, and people would even tell me they signed up because they knew I would be there year after year.

But then it changed–in a nanosecond. The main person in charge was doing an exercise where I would come in with a song during certain parts of the message. Just as my hands were literally about to hit the keyboard–she gave me a little nod basically saying, “ O.K you’re going to play now right?” As if possessed by some kind of demon that suddenly attacked my rational mind– in a flash I felt anger sweep through me. In my mind I screamed: “Well duh, of course I am going to play right now—you don’t need to remind me or cue me!!!” I was pissed and yet had a smile on my face, not allowing anyone to know that I was feeling anything. I knew what to do, I was on it–and yet there was that idea that she had to tell me, remind me, control that I was doing what she wanted. The gig was up. Like a boulder that has been removed from a stream allowing the water to now gush forth, suddenly I was filled with all the ways that this had been going on for awhile and it had been building in me. I had been on the support end of ministers, authors, or anyone else who would need me to stand behind them and support their vision. But in that one moment my uncharastic anger got my attention. I did what we had planned and no one knew what had gone on for me inside. I did my job, I was professional, but I knew the truth. In that moment I got the call from Spirit: it was the call of something more.

Like a boulder that has been removed from a stream allowing the water to now gush forth.

It was one of those Spiritual a-ha-wake-up moments. One of those moments that take you by surprise because maybe you didn’t know you felt this way. Ah, but the body knows sometimes way before our logical, rational, planned-out mind does. I had always loved backing up the presenters that I had played my music for, but in that moment I got a new vision. It was a vision, a calling, an awakening of some kind. What I got was it is supposed to be me at the front of the room, speaking, teaching, and reading from my book, putting my own ideas out there. That was where that flash of anger came from. I had ignored this call for so long out of fear, that my body, fed up with stuffing my feelings, let me have it in that moment, forcing me to just look at what just happened.

One of my favorite expressions is “pain pushes ‘till the vision pulls.” I think sometimes that it has to get to that point of pain for me to really make a change. I wish it wasn’t like that, and I am getting better at getting quiet enough to listen to that still small voice before it becomes a blaring foghorn in my head trying to get my attention. It’s a reframe of the things that aren’t working in my life to then ask myself the question: what do I really feel about this and what is this emotion trying to tell me?

I would love to say that after my wake-up call, that in the next few months I processed my feelings, changed my job, followed my heart desires and everything worked out great. No, at times it was confusing, messy, emotional, but then there were also moments of clarity, new visions, and a gradual redirection of my path. I love the analogy of a plane flying from San Francisco to Hawaii and how it is off course 98 % of the time, but the computer simply keeps doing small course corrections and eventually the plane gets to its destination. I see my life that way…it’s all going towards a place of fulfillment and self-expression and hopefully contributing to the world. Along the way I can gently, without judgment, keep course correcting when things aren’t feeling right to lead me to the path that will. I now know that I need to give myself enough quiet time to listen to that voice inside urging me on to more self-expression. In those times I can hear whatever will be the call of something more.

About The Author: Once a little girl trying to save the Hollywood sign, Karen Drucker is now a musician of 11 CD’s. Karen’s path became uncovered when she was a teenager baby-sitting for singer/songwriter Carole King. It was because of King that Karen began to teach herself how to use the piano. Since then her days of being a “singer for hire” have come to a halt and she now travels around the country performing and speaking at conferences, retreats, churches, doing concerts, workshops, and organizing her own spiritual retreats. Her main intention with music is to help people deal with illness, loss, or just help them center for the day. She stated “If I am making a difference in some small way then I am happy.”

I’m sure you’ve fallen completely in love with Karen by now but  take a few minutes and go to this video with her song, “In the Stillness” with beautiful photos! She will take your breath away!

Thank you Karen!

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I originally met her when I interviewed her on my radio show about her book, “Go To Elf.” It is absolutely one of my most favorite books I’ve ever read and that’s saying a lot! She has the uncanny ability to make her characters spring to life and I could barely make myself come to the last page and close the book! The messages of spirit and tools to use in life are delightfully woven throughout the book in such a clever way and you will think about them often as you move through life. You can hear the interview with Lauren and find out more about her book. Now sit back and enjoy this wonderful post on “A New Beginning” from one of my most favorite people.

NOW IS ALWAYS THE BEST TIME FOR A NEW BEGINNING

It saddens me when people reach a certain age and make an internal decision that it’s too late for them to follow their dreams. Maybe they have wasted some of their lifetime (in their view) but, so what? The NOW moment is an ideal time to start something new.

When I was 12, I told my mother exactly how my life was going to unfold. I said that the first 20 years of my life belonged to her and daddy. The second 20 belonged to my husband and children. And all the rest was mine in which to do anything and everything I pleased.

Strong affirmations like that, made at such an early age, are very powerful. My life unfolded exactly that way. I was married 2 months before my 21st birthday. I drove my son to college on my 40th birthday and I haven’t looked back since. Whenever I conquered one mountain, I could hardly wait to gear up for the next.

I know that I am blessed. Many people look back at the life path they have traveled sometime between their 40th and 60th birthdays, and they begin to panic because they haven’t yet achieved their goals. They start to feel “antique”, “washed-up”, “over-the-hill”, like either a “has-been” or “never-was”, and so from then on, they simply stop moving forward and begin to “settle”.

Whenever I conquered one mountain, I could hardly wait to gear up for the next.

My father experienced a jolt of mid-life crisis when he turned 50. He didn’t look any different to me, but I remember that anytime he ran into someone he hadn’t seen for a while, as we walked away from that person he would ask me, “Do I look that old, Lauren?” His fear of looking old didn’t last (fortunately), but at that moment you could almost smell his fear. Life had somehow passed right by him and he’d missed a major chunk of it.
Gerontological research suggests that we’re old the minute we think we are, and that the basis for that judgment, in each individual case, is triggered by whatever our perception of old was when we were a child. If the senior adults from of our childhood seemed old and needy when they were 60, then buried in our belief system is the idea that when we get to be 60, we will be old too. But if the significant seniors of our childhood were still happy and active at 85, then 85 becomes our threshold for being old.

If that’s the case, it may explain why I have no idea when I’m going to start feeling old. On my mother’s side of the family, all members going back several generations made their transitions either just before or just after they turned 60; while most of my father’s family members (in spite of my father’s temporary lapse of sanity at 50) were still alive well into their 90’s.

I breezed by 50 – don’t even remember it. I noticed 60 only because I was deep in the throes of starting a brand new career and other people pointed out that I must be a “late bloomer”. At 70, I’d just “repurposed” my life (again) and I wrote a novel – just for the fun of it. In fact, I hosted the book launching on my 70th birthday – and again, people seemed surprised.

I’m still in my seventh decade and I’m starting to creak a little physically, but I have some interesting foothills yet to climb. I know at the depths of my being that life is eternal so I don’t have to rush; that I chose the human experience to explore planet earth and have fun doing it, and as the spiritual teachers called Abraham say, for sure I’m going to die with something still in my In-Box. In fact that’s my new plan and I’m stickn’ to it.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Lauren McLaughlin is part of a team of thousands of teachers on the planet at this time, whose purpose is to remind those who wish to remember that they are deeply and dearly loved by the creator and sustainer of all life, that the answers to the most important questions they have are carefully stored in their own heart, and that they deliberately chose the human experience for the sheer fun of it. Lauren is a writer, speaker, and retreat facilitator who is currently living happily-ever-after with her husband, John, in Clearwater, Florida.

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Edie Weinstein's First Best Seller

I would love to introduce to one of my dear friends, Edie Weinstein, who has graciously written this blog post as my guest! It is a beautiful piece of writing that goes with my theme of “a new beginning” this month!

She was also a guest on my radio show recently! Feel free to download the show here and learn even more about this dynamic and wonderful woman!

A New Beginning

“ Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.”-Semisonic from the song Closing Time
Each morning, as the sun rises, we are offered a do-over. It doesn’t matter what happened the day before, in the grand scheme of things, because, unless we can affect a time warp, we can’t change anything that occurred, even a moment ago. It seems to be part of the human condition to resist that truth. Often, we fuss and fret, about all the ‘shoulda, woulda coulda’s’ …the what if’s and if onlies. It is a waste of the precious energy that could be devoted to making a positive change in attitude and then in action. As we release the old, worn out beliefs and behaviors, we leave space for the new to come pouring in, much like digging a hole in the sand so the ocean can fill it back up.
I love beginnings and have long been fascinated with borders and boundaries between time frames…then and now, here and there, all woven into one beautiful quilt of this precious moment. I enjoy the change of season, each a magical melding of earth, air, fire and water, calling us to adapt internally and externally. Change is inevitable. Everything about us morphs. The 53 year old woman who is typing these words was once a newborn. The hair that used to be down to my waist in my 20’s is now elfin shorn; so much easier to care for. The deer caught in the headlights when it came to making decisions, emotional contortionist who would bend over backward to please people, recovering co-dependent is now an assertive, confident (most of the time, except when the monkey mind inner critic kicks in) out there in the world powerhouse. Fifteen years ago…heck, fifteen months ago, I could not have envisioned the life I am immersed in now.

I am even learning to gracefully accept endings.

I am even learning to gracefully accept endings, knowing that everything and everyone in our lives is on loan to us, so I do my best to appreciate each one and as the late Warren Zevon was quoted as saying before he died, that he intended to “Enjoy every sandwich.” I am more often than not mindfully present with the people I am blessed to know. I immerse myself colorfully in each experience. As I am writing this, I am acutely aware that these words come through me as a gift to me and then to the reader and yet, I am not filtering or editing as they move from my mind to my fingers. I know that as I surrender what no longer serves, the beginning is that much sweeter. It took the death of loved ones, including my husband 13 years ago, my dad nearly 4 years ago and my mom a little more than a year ago, to bring that to my awareness where it lives and breathes and grows and heals.
Here’s to new beginnings!

Edie Weinstein (a.k.a. Bliss Mistress) is a work in progress, like everyone else on the planet; the artist of her own design and the mistress of her own bliss. She is a career journalist with 23 years experience interviewing some of the most amazing movers and shakers on the planet as well as a dynamic motivational speaker. Her first best seller is called The Bliss Mistress Guide To Transforming the Ordinary Into the Extraordinary and is available at www.amazon.com Her website is www.liveinjoy.org

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My daughter at the Grand Palace Temple in Bangkok!

What is your new beginning? I find that people are a true source of inspiration for many others. Sometimes you aren’t even sure what you want until you hear or read of someone else’s new venture. So I have invited several of my friends that have new beginnings in their life to tell you about some of them in their own words. This month will highlight many of my friends that have new books, new ventures, or even have recreated their life in some manner!

They are such interesting and positive friends that I thought you would love to meet them! They have inspired, me and I know they will do the same for you!

If you have a fascinating new beginning yourself, send me an email to petey@newpathwaytohealing.com and tell me about it. I would love to include it on one of the blogs for this month!

Here are a few of my own new beginnings that I see within my family!

My daughter is off for the journey of a lifetime! She has made a U-turn and moved from Atlanta back home to Orlando to be closer to family and begin her practice as a play therapist. But first, she’s stopping in Thailand to meditate with the Buddhist monks, observe and participate in Zen rituals, and explore the culture. Then she’s headed to Australia to travel the beautiful coast and visit some of her American friends. She will finish her journey on the other side of the world in New Zealand – or what many say is the most beautiful place on earth! She’s agreed to share some of her posts, and you can see some of them here (www.lifedesignbysarah.com)! What a new beginning!

My son and his wife at the twins baby shower.

And then next month my son and his wife are giving a new beginning to twin identical granddaughters! I have such excitement, wonder and an insatiable curiosity to meet these two little souls that have traveled here straight from heaven. I will definitely be sharing more about this new beginning with tons of photos as well!

Life is wonderful and filled to the brim with joy, laughter, spirit and love!

Please join me tomorrow when you meet my first friend as they share their “new beginning” story! And please feel free to leave comments with how they make you feel as you read them!

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Plant the right seeds for your new beginning.

Have you ever thought about when you see new beginnings in nature? It is always after the dormancy of the winter months. Even when snow or ice lies on top of the ground, there is still movement and life beneath it. It prepares itself for the excitement of the rebirth that happens in the invitation from the spring months.

As the sun becomes warmer and the wind blows softly, it is inviting the seeds that lie below to be coaxed out of the ground. It also allows for new seeds to be planted as the earth can be tilled to give its vibrancy back to its soil and provide the perfect nurturing environment for its new seedlings!

You could be preparing to birth the most beautiful blossom or tree you’ve ever seen in your life?

Is what we do truly any different in how we prepare for a new beginning? Even when others can see no action or new behavior on your part, aren’t there still new thoughts and ideas giving birth in your mind? Perhaps you are consciously or unconsciously preparing your environment for the perfect timing of your new beginning? You might be saving up money, meditating or giving birth to a concept for a new business, book or idea. You might want to talk to certain people that will become wonderful partners as you prepare for joining energies together.

Or maybe you’re just preparing for a rebirth and you don’t even know what it is yet. But something in you waits just as in nature for a seed to blow your way and germinate. You could be preparing to birth the most beautiful blossom or tree you’ve ever seen in your life?

What do you see coming your way? What new thought or idea is preparing to give birth? Perhaps you’re just making everything feel right in your life to see what comes in for your new beginning?

Feel free to share what comes your way for a new beginning!

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Ron & I

Many people I work with are looking for a new beginning in their relationship. It almost seems like an oxymoron to think of having a new beginning in a relationship with someone that perhaps you’ve been with for 5, 10 or even 20 years. How can that happen?

It happens because you have decided you are ready for a new beginning. That’s right. That’s all you have to do is make that decision that you’re READY, and it will happen!
It is not unusual for me to get a call or email asking if I can do couple counseling with only one person. Whoever is calling knows that something different needs to change in their relationship to meet their needs more and to increase levels of wholeness or joy. But, their partner has no interest in coming with them. What should they do?

Well my answer is yes, you can do couples counseling with only one person! Interesting, isn’t it? But the truth of it is, when one person makes a change in the relationship, the other person will automatically begin to create change as well. It’s usually done on an unconscious basis, and they’re not even aware that that is what they’re doing. But they can’t keep doing the same behavior if YOU DON’T!

Let me give you an example from my practice.
I have a couple where the person coming into to see me is very upset over her husband’s authoritarian style with their children. He is very controlling, rigid and harsh with how he treats them. She was raised to communicate about what is bothering her, so she speaks with the children about their behavior, asking them what consequences they feel they deserve if they break the rules, etc. Her husband is outraged at this approach and wants to spank or yell at them instead. Their different parenting styles is causing distance, anger and is making her go behind his back when dealing with the children.

Different parenting styles can cause problems.

As she started talking to me about these differences, I asked her what would happen if she could be authentic in her approach. What would happen if she used her style of parenting with the children that was effective in front of her husband, and then used the good communication style I spoke about last week in her conversations with him?
“When you want to spank and yell at the kids for leaving their bikes lying on the driveway, it makes me very upset and uncomfortable and makes me not want to talk to you about anything and keep my distance. I want to be close to you and tell you everything, so if we can come to a compromise it would be so easy to want to be with you.”

When she changed her style of communication EVERY single time, the difference finally allowed him to hear her. He didn’t want her to be distant with him and hide things, so he eventually decided to come to a session. He realized he was actually emulating his parents style of parenting which he hated growing up!

One person and one change can create a new beginning no matter how long you’ve been in the relationship!

Is there a relationship where you would like to make a new beginning?

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