I find this to be such an interesting question when clients ask me to help them show love for someone in their life.
I don’t really ever think that it’s something I had to learn consciously in my life. I had a mother who showed me unconditional love on a physical, emotional, mental and spiritual level until she transitioned to a higher plane 17-years ago. It became easy for me to follow her model of love,
and I believe everyone in my life would say they do feel loved by me.
But others have not been as fortunate as I have. For many there was no role model of a loving person as a parent or as a spouse. This left them with the task of trying to discover what that might look like for themselves.
There was a wonderful book written several years ago titled, “The Five Love Languages.” It was actually written by a marriage and family therapist who had seen every variety of how people expressed and interpreted love.
There is truly a myriad of ways that we can show love for one another. But if your way is different than your loved one, does it become discounted or even at times invisible?
I have seen this hundreds of times while working with clients. People feel the most loved when it is similar to how they express it. But if it is different, then it sets up potential heartache and feelings of distance, anger or blame in a relationship.
When the universal love languages are identified, there can be a re-awakening and an actual rebirth of love felt in the relationship.
Do you know what your love language is? The five languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch.
Feelings of love fill the heart, the body and the soul. When love is literally in the air, there is an energy that surrounds you. Such energy is easily imitated by others. It is the same as when you smile at someone passing by and their instinct is to smile back even if they’re not feeling happy.
What a beautiful vibration to set in motion! Smile and you get smiles back. Do for others, and something is done for you. However sometimes this may look different as well.
Remembering that receiving back is not always in the same form as it is given. For instance, you may give your time to someone and what is given back is appreciation, respect or perhaps joy. Different gifts may be received and given, and one is not more valuable than another.
Ahhh, but when the gift of love is given – especially unconditional love – it fills the receiver with peace, joy, love and light. It can help heal others pain or discomfort. It can bring endorphins bubbling to the top of your head and make everything pale in comparison. Love can open hearts, bring smiles, and laughter while lighting up a room!
Won’t you decide to share your love today? Love something about somebody, and tell them in your own language what it is.
Let the light begin to shine from your door out into the world!
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